Sins of the Fathers
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You hypocrite,
first take the plank out of your own eye,
and then you will see clearly to remove
the speck from your brother's eye.

- Matthew 7:5

I'm an acknowledged survivor of the Catholic sex abuse crisis.

In the late 1970s and early 1980s I was sexually exploited, abused, and ultimately assaulted — raped — by Father LeRoy Valentine at The Church of the Immacolata in Richmond Heights, Missouri, a suburb of St. Louis.

Abuse that was witnessed, at least in part, by then Father and now Cardinal Timothy Dolan, the Cardinal Archbishop of New York.

Then, in 2002, when I went to the Archdiocese of St. Louis for help, and by then auxilliary Bishop Dolan called me back, that's when things got REALLY bad. When what I describe as the Abuse of the Abused began.

Most recently, I was interviewed by Bob Peterlin...

I've summarized my story in a number of pieces...

Interview with Peter Pfeifer
(aka Flannel Shirt Guy)
8.23.2019

I briefly discuss the role played by some of the big names in the Catholic Church involved with my story in the following pieces...

I tell my entire story via a series of essays I call The Sins of the Fathers...

My most recently updated pieces are...

For UTTM updates, or to contact me, I tweet @IvanDOesnot You can also e-mail me at ivandoesnot at gmail dotcom or 314 four94 13two4. Just text me first, please.

The Sins of the Fathers

The buck stops here.

I'll be damned if allow what happened to me — both as a child and a survivor — to happen to anyone else.

While many would have you believe my story is old news — that the problem was solved twenty years ago and I just need to move on — my experience says otherwise; the scandal is alive and well, at least in terms of the Abuse of the Abused, the reality of VOS ESTIS, and in other ways.

- What's New?

While the events portrayed in the movie SPOTLIGHT would seem to mark the beginning of the end of the Catholic sex abuse crisis, they are really just the end of the beginning. In my case, SPOTLIGHT marks only the start — or, really, the resumption — of the story.

- Since SPOTLIGHT

I recently came across evidence — the proverbial Smoking Gun — that makes it clear that we were knowingly sacrificed by the Archdiocese of St. Louis.

- Sacrificed

I'm working on telling all the sordid, and largely untold, details of my story in an ebook...

...a podcast...

...and series of videos...

The Problem

The problem is that, despite what's been said, and what you've heard, my resolve to end the sex abuse crisis isn't shared by the Catholic Church.

Not completely.

While it IS doing a lot of good work to protect children, and to make sure what happened to us doesn't happen again, the Catholic Church couldn't care less about survivors.

Still.

Despite the Pope's motu propio VOS ESTIS...

- Vos Estis: The Reality

That is evidenced by the complete disregard for survivors demonstrated — and not even hidden — by the Archdiocese of St. Louis.

- Abuse of the Abused

And the Pope's indifference to it.

And us.

Combine that with the proof I've discovered that the Archdiocese of St. Louis had KNOWLEDGE of the existence of abusers, because they were being MANAGED.

- The Smoking Gun

...and the on-going efforts to protect the hierarchy at all costs, including covering up the crimes of, at best, omission of people like...

- Cardinal Timothy Dolan

...one must question the — actual — resolve of the Catholic Church to protecting children.

Much less helping survivors.

Or holding the hierarchy accountable.

What Happened

When I was a child, I was sexually exploited, abused, and assaulted — raped — by a priest named Fr. LeRoy Valentine at the Church of the Immacolata in Richmond Heights, MO, a suburb of St. Louis, from 1977 until 1981. My abuse was witnessed, at least in part, by then Father and now...

- Cardinal Timothy Dolan

Then, when I went to the Archdiocese of St. Louis for help in early March 2002, and by then Bishop Timothy Dolan returned my call, that's when things got REALLY bad.

- Gaslighting

Most recently, I hoped to receive the support and assistance of the -- devout Catholic -- Attorney General of Missouri, Eric Schmitt but, instead of being welcomed at the press conference announcing the results of the investigation of ArchStL, I was terrorized and traumatized by the MO AG's office. I was thrown out of the building by the police for having the gall of wanting to quietly attend the press conference.

- MO AG Eric Schmitt Presser 

What's worse, KMOV got the whole thing on tape and won't air/web the footage, making St. Louis and ArchStL worse than SPOTLIGHT.

- St. Louis as SPOTLIGHT but Worse

In case you've heard troubling things about me, understand I've been the subject of a...

I assume that is why so many people have stopped talking to me.

As for whether you should believe me, I met with Archbishop Carlson of ArchStL on March 26, 2019...

...something that only happens if your (arch)diocese believes you WERE abused.

Finally, in case you're wondering and/or hoping, the Pope's recent mandate VOS ESTIS LUX MUNDI has had NO effect...

...on how the Archdiocese of St. Louis helps survivors. They still do...

OVERVIEW

If you're looking for a place to start trying to understand my story, I'd suggest you start here...

My interview with my friend and classmate from Immacolata Peter Pfeiffer, who was also abused by Fr. Valentine, is another good starting place.

Interview with Peter Pfeifer (aka Flannel Shirt Guy) 8.23.2019

Read

I'm in the process of writing a book that discusses my experiences...

My more important pieces include...

Watch

In advance of, and during, the Vatican sex abuse summit, I recorded a number of...

Listen

I have recorded some of my testimony in podcast form...

Press & Interviews

My story was first told by Aisha Sultan on April 20, 2018 in the St. Louis Post-Dispatch...

My most recent interview was an in-person interview with a fellow survivor...

In June, I was invited on the Dave Glover Show in St. Louis to tell my story...

I was interviewed in some depth, by Religion Digital...

Other stories that mention my story or me include...

if you'd like to talk to me about my experiences, my contact information is listed at the bottom of this page.

GoFundMe

I used the small settlement I received from ArchStL to finance a surprisingly successful social media campaign that have forced both ArchStL and Cardinal Dolan to open up to outside reviewers. However, I'm now having financial problems due to C-PTSD and the Cancer I was fighting at the same time I was fighting ArchStL to help me.

Twitter

For updates on this project, follow me on Twitter @IvanDOesnot

AMDG

Chris O'Leary
Webster Groves, MO

ivandoesnot (at) gmail.com
314.494.13Two4 (Please text before calling)

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